Do you have a cheerleader in your life? Someone who is trustworthy and always on your team? Who always has encouragement and kind words? Who will bring you pieces of whatever it is you need? Someone who is intrigued by what you’re so pumped about that they go out and learn more about it so they can share in your joy and excitement? Someone who never says, “Stupid dreamer. There’s no way!”
Someone where if you told them you were building a ship to take you to the moon they would ask to come along and would supply the coffee and help you draw up the plans?
Someone who makes the ‘im’ out of impossible?
Someone who has your back?
Your rock to cling to in stormy seas?
The person who makes you look good and pumps you up when you are feeling that ‘im?’
It’s like having your own personal cheerleader and there is nothing like it.
I know it is exceedingly rare to find someone like this, but if you can find a cheerleader who fits the above description, hold on to them and don’t let go. Let them know how important they are in your life.
If we wanted to flip this around… are you a cheerleader? Is there someone in your world who needs you? Needs your unconditional support? Someone you can help? Someone you can pave the road for without taking over their project or dream? If so, what are you waiting for? And if you feel the need to naysay, hold your tongue. Help them overcome the obstacles and see a path around the potholes in their road–trust me, they can see those potholes.
Tell me… Who is your mentor or cheerleader?
My mom passed away two weeks ago after two years of trying to kick cancer’s ass. She was my cheerleader in life. I can’t recall a single time she told me I couldn’t accomplish anything. She’d simply help me find a way around the obstacles or brainstorm my way back to reality if need be. 😉 I’m grateful she got to see some of my writing success before she went and I’m also grateful that I could be with her during her final months and be her unconditional cheerleader. I could take the reins for her and be her advocate and whatever she needed. I swear she waited for me to be there before she took her final breath, to be there to cheer her on and let her know she was not alone and that everyone would be okay.
To change the subject… my dad said something interesting a few weeks ago. He said when you are doing your own thing and living with integrity (living your own life on your terms) friendships will ebb and flow. You may have friends who are there for you (supportive), but they might not be there with you (experiencing and understanding the same things you are going through). You may have to go it alone. And if you are okay with that, then you can go anywhere.
Okay, he may not have said that last sentence, but that’s how he make me feel–as though I could go anywhere. And with my biggest cheerleader gone, I go it alone. But not completely. Next week I’m going to talk about writing communities here on The Helpful Writer. And while nobody could replace the cheerleader my mom was for the past several decades, there are other important people out there helping me move forward with my writing career. I hope there are good people in your life to help you on your journey. And if not, come back next week when I’ll share some ideas on how to find great people.
Be strong my friends. And don’t forget to cherish those that are there for you even if they can’t be there with you.
August 9, 1944 – August 15, 2013